Getting some Closure

Those who have known me a while know that I call myself the 'Closure Queen.'  I like for things to FEEL finished, I like to say my peace, I don't like to leave things unsaid, and I think that when there are no loose ends, I cope better.  This drives my husband crazy.  He says that I view arguments as a sit com...that I want everything happy after 30 minutes.  :) 

This week is my last week of track out.  I didn't necessarily plan it, but it has also been a week of closure.  My church is having a consignment sale next month, and that prompted me to get rid of clothes, toys, etc... that we had for Tori.  I have a friend who came and picked up the items this morning and she is going to go through them, price them, and make sure they get set up at the consignment sale.  It was such a relief for me to not have to go through all the things Tori used when she was here.  Getting all the things together for my friend to pick up motivated me to get the items together that people let us borrow and after tomorrow, all those items will be returned. 

I also sat down and wrote a letter to Tori's biological father.  I am not sure when I will mail it, but it felt good to write to him.  Because I feel Kristofer and I were misrepresented by the GAL office, I felt I needed to clear the air with Tori's father.  I also want him to know that we care and that we are here if he needs anything and especially if Tori needs anything.

Yesterday I sat down and wrote to a gentleman that I spoke with who works for the state of NC and oversees the court programs, including Guardian Ad Litem.  I spoke with him by phone the week that Tori was taken from us.  When I spoke with him, he seemed interested in our concerns with the GAL office that covers Greene County.  Since I spoke with him in December, there have been many other concerns that have come up and I decided that it was my responsibility to follow up with him and let him know the other things we found out.  I know I am only one person, but I can be a squeaky wheel and if there is a small chance sharing our experience will open some eyes and make a difference in the way that the GAL office handles cases, it is worth it.  What they did was horrible.  That is it.