It was very touching to sit with my husband and hold his hand as 2 people we care for were pledging their love for each other. The minister (who by the way was absolutely wonderful!) reminded Denise and Steve that people were going to watch them now that they are married. He said they needed to be aware that people were going to listen to how they talked to each other and that people would watch how they treated each other. That really hit hard. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can't stand to disappoint those that I love and when I feel that I have, I get real defensive. When I am defensive, I look a
Monday, March 12, 2012
Wedding....
This weekend Tofer and I attended the wedding of one of my very best friends. This was the first wedding that Tofer and I have attended together. (except for our own) When Denise and Steve got engaged, Denise asked me if I would be her wedding coordinator. I directed my cousin's wedding as well as a family friend's wedding a few years back, so I told her I'd be happy to do it. Denise is a teacher and is very organized and knew exactly what she wanted. (for the most part~she changed some things on me the night before the wedding!) It was easy to put her wants on paper and then design her wedding ceremony. It was a beautiful day and Denise and Steve were so happy!
It was very touching to sit with my husband and hold his hand as 2 people we care for were pledging their love for each other. The minister (who by the way was absolutely wonderful!) reminded Denise and Steve that people were going to watch them now that they are married. He said they needed to be aware that people were going to listen to how they talked to each other and that people would watch how they treated each other. That really hit hard. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can't stand to disappoint those that I love and when I feel that I have, I get real defensive. When I am defensive, I look alittle lot witchy. Witchy turns into 'having a tone in my voice' and giving Tofer what he calls "the look". If anyone is watching us at this point, we have definitely not been good witnesses. I don't believe that we should pretend that things are always perfect, but I do believe that sometimes I should wait to speak raise my voice express my feelings at a time when maybe I am not feeling so defensive. I still have so much to learn about marriage. I am very blessed to be married to someone who has patience with me (most of the time) and is willing to let me learn what battles are worth fighting.
It was very touching to sit with my husband and hold his hand as 2 people we care for were pledging their love for each other. The minister (who by the way was absolutely wonderful!) reminded Denise and Steve that people were going to watch them now that they are married. He said they needed to be aware that people were going to listen to how they talked to each other and that people would watch how they treated each other. That really hit hard. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can't stand to disappoint those that I love and when I feel that I have, I get real defensive. When I am defensive, I look a
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Missi, don't feel badly because I'm at least 30 years older than you, have been married for nearly 44 years and I'm STILL trying to learn these lessons! Thankfully, you're starting out a whole lot earlier than I did, so when you're at my current stage of the game, you should be an expert. I've finally learned that the best thing I can do, when I get the way you've described, is to just go somewhere by myself and think about things until I can get my initial emotional response under control! If I open my mouth immediately, all my frustrations will come rolling out and I'll nearly ALWAYS say things that I later seriously regret! Keep working....you'll get there...eventually. I too am very, VERY thankful that Larry is patient and long-suffering with me!
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